If you are trying to make life healing changes, you need to realize that everything in life is not always as simple as right or wrong, black or white, or even cut and dried. A fact of life is that there are gray areas, long processes that usher in life healing changes. I have come to appreciate the understanding that making life healing changes is a process that begins with a relationship with Jesus Christ. We simply cannot make life healing changes on our own. For example, if you are struggling with an addiction, whether it be drugs, alcohol, pornography, gambling, or shopping, you can’t just stop doing these things on your own by trying harder not to do them. If you could, you would have done it a long time ago. You wouldn’t have allowed it to cost you thousands of dollars, shame and embarrassment, loss of your family and friends or even loss of your freedom by having to go to jail. We need help to make these life healing changes.
In the Bible, it teaches us that “God is our refuge a...
Have you ever wondered why some people’s life seems to be going better than others? Could it be that they have never had any bad things happen to them, perhaps they were born in the perfect family with both parents, or maybe they were extremely smart and made all of the right choices in their life. Well I don’t believe that anyone living has had it that good. Consequently, bad things have happened to all of us at one time or another, that’s just life. There will never be a consistently perfect life without challenges because they are no perfect people. In the bible, Romans 3:23 tells us that “all have sinned and come short of the glory of God”. Therefore, none of us have or will ever make ALL of the right choices all of the time. Subsequently, if we did Jesus would not have a need to shed His blood.
Nevertheless, the question still remains; why do some people seem to have such a great life? The truth behind the question is; we all have a great life. But what makes their life different...
The world we live in today is constantly changing. It seems as if people are always wanting things better, faster, and bigger or smaller, depending on what it is, than what they already have. If you buy something new, wait a little while and it will be out of style. Why? Because that very thing you bought new a few months ago, has been upgraded to be better, faster, and bigger or smaller, depending on what it is. As soon as something new comes out people want it, even if what they already have is working perfectly fine.
We were not created to live in a constant state of super-sonic change. Trying to live your life by doing what everyone else is doing, possessing what everyone else is possessing, or living your life like everyone else is living there’s, can cause you to be unbalanced and extremely sick physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially.
Don’t be conformed to this world. You were not put on this earth to live like everyone else. You were put here to enjoy yo...
When God created you He did not do so with the intent that you would crumble and die under the weight and pressures of this life. He already knew that in this life you would have tribulations, that’s no surprise to Him. However, just like it hurts you, it hurts him. God did not send His only son to sacrifice His life so His children can be beat up by mental and emotional pressure. That was not His plan. Although, considering everything you have been through, it may seem that God doesn’t care. There may even be times when you wonder where God is when trauma and tragedy hits your life. Believe me, He was there all of the time.
Everyone who has ever walked the earth has experience something or someone that has caused them pain. Even when Jesus walked the earth people lied on Him, accused Him, and even wanted to kill Him (which they eventually did). But, we know that was not the end of His story and this is not the end of your story. There’s life after this…Don’...
Boundaries are vital to establishing healthy relationships as well as having a healthy life. Boundaries tell where you end and the other person begins. You must know and understand your limits. Basically, know what you are good at and what you are not. Also, know who you will allow in your life and who you will not. Finally, know what you will put up with and what you absolutely will not.
Learning to set healthy boundaries is not necessarily something we were taught growing up. At least our parents didn’t call it that. Here are a few suggestions that will help you get started on setting healthy boundaries for your life.
1. Be Direct
Don’t water-down or muddle your boundary because it sends mixed messages. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Discussing it is just a way to get you to change your mind.
2. Name Your Limits
If you set a limit of how far others can go. Stick to it! No means no and yes means yes.
Have you ever wondered why you seemed to be different than other people? Your struggle in life seem to be harder and things don’t come so easily for you. You try to enjoy the things others enjoy but you can’t find fulfillment. You want to fit in. But the more you try, the more you secretly feel like an outsider. So you force it. Only to be left dissatisfied and unfulfilled. “What’s wrong with me?” you ask. Nothing, you’ve just been chosen.
You are chosen by God for a specific purpose in the earth. You were preselected and intentionally planted in your mother’s womb. Regardless of the situation or circumstance of your conception and how you got here, you have still been chosen. You are not a weed to just grow up and be wild without direction for your life. You have been chosen. You are not an accident nor a mistake. Neither are you a result of happenstance. God meant for you to be here. He has a plan for your life. God has chosen you from the crown of your head to the sole of your feet....
“Whenever a round of banqueting was over, Job would send for his children and purify them, rising early in the morning to offer burnt offerings for all of them. For Job thought: Perhaps my children have sinned, having cursed God in their hearts. This was Job's regular practice.” --Job 1:5
A personal testimony I would like to share with you, with a focus on daughters.
A father who covers his daughter;
Invests all that God has given him so she can reach her full potential, purpose or destiny.
Identifies her gifts and trains her so her gifts can bear fruit.
Provides a roof over her head and declares it a place of safety for her.
Protects all the intricate areas of her being, cultivating her identity and raising her self-esteem.
Understands that if she ever loses her way or falls astray, he will love her back to health without any guilt or shame.
Helps her find the lamp unto her feet and the light unto her path that leads her right to the heart of God....
Forgiveness is essential if you want to be free to enjoy your life. Yes, it can be hard to forgive, because you may think if you forgive someone they are getting away with the wrong they’ve done to you. But that is a huge misconception. God says “vengeance is mine, I will repay.” (Romans 12:9) God can get people in places that we will never be able to go, such as in their thoughts, their heart and their dreams. So let Him deal with them and you work on you.
Consequently, forgiveness is not for them, it is for you. Unforgiveness or holding on to offenses weighs you down in more areas of your life than you realize. Our spirits were created to soar with the eagles, not pluck with the chickens. So go ahead forgive, let offenses go and release the person(s) that hurt you. Start enjoying your life.
Just let it go! How many times have you replayed hurtful events from your past? My guess would be hundreds of times. Well, one of the best things you can do to improve your life and find total freedom and happiness is to leave the past in the past. If you dwell on the things that have hurt you too long, they hold you captive and suck the life right out of you. They keep you from enjoying life and moving forward towards the wonderful things God has waiting for you in your future.
So take these steps towards letting go of your past.
Acknowledge that the hurting or negative thing happened.
Own your anger. (How you feel is how you feel.)
Recognize that the hurtful thing happened and you can’t undo what has happened.
Forgive the person that hurt you and release them.
If needed, forgive yourself.
Settle everything about the situation as finished, closed and done!
Give yourself permission to move on. Let go of the past: mind, body and spirit.
It is very important for anyone trying to better themselves in life to make sure to keep your focus. There are so many distractions in our society today. Whether it is people, places or things, you must keep your eye on the prize. Guard your heart. Don’t allow anything to settle in your heart and cause you to be ungrateful, selfish, arrogant, or just plain mean. Be thankful for what you have been given and God will bless you with more. But if you complain about what you don’t have, then you tie God’s hands and hinder your blessings. So stay focused on all the good and let the rest take care of itself.