It feels so good to be back and in the swing of things again. As I was updating our Strong and Courageous Women's Empowerment Blog Page, I was deep in thought about an emotional challenge I was being faced with and I would like to share it with you.
Here it is, I love my life and I really enjoy doing what I do. As a matter of fact, I don't want to do anything else. I love being a Christian Counselor and helping people with their lives. But there are times I encounter moments or situations that break me down emotionally and cause me to think less of myself as if I am not worthy to be doing what I am called to do. As I talk with good friends and mentors I have come to understand that all of us feel that way from time to time. I am told it's called "Imposter Syndrome". (I think I will write a blog on that in the future). It causes you to look back at the mistakes, mess-ups, and wrong choices you have made in your life and it makes you feel inadequate to see yourself the way God sees you. It hinders you from moving forward in life and doing things you desire to do. Well, I have learned that it is a lie.
Even the word of God tells us "All have sinned and come short of the Glory of God". (Romans 3:23) There is not one perfect person on the face of the earth, past, present, or future, that will live without making mistakes, mess-ups, or wrong choices. I felt so free after realizing that for myself. It put me in a better mental state and now I have a renewed sense of purpose. You see, ladies God never told us we would be perfect. That is a learned behavior we received from watching the world. It is OK to look back to where you have come from, but don't live there and don't allow it to create in you a form of false identity. Look at it and then thank God for where He has brought you from. No matter what season you are in, or what challenges you may have with family, friends, or foes, you must look at every moment that you are breathing as a gift.
Coffee and Conversation with Jesus
I found myself sitting down in my living room, looking out the window, and having what I like to call “coffee and conversation with Jesus”. That is simply where I pour my heart out to God and talk to him about everything that concerns me as well as ask him for guidance and instructions on the next right move for my life. I took a panoramic view of the different growing seasons of my life, from the time I was a small child, a wife, a divorcee’, a single mother, and currently a business owner, and everything in between. Then I began to cry. The reason is because all of a sudden I remembered being in different situations that I thought I would never survive. I made a lot of mistakes during my life. One heart-felt memory came to my mind of struggling so hard as a single mother trying to keep food on the table, keep the lights on, and try my best to keep my children from the streets because I accepted the offer to work the second shift at the hospital because it paid a few pennies more than the first shift. I remembered crying every day because I was so scared and I didn’t know whom to trust to protect my children while I went to work to provide for them. But here we are over 20 years later, looking back and thanking God we all made it. I’m not saying we didn’t come out of it with some emotional scars, but praise God we did make it out.
Looking back over my life and seeing what God had already done, motivates me to the highest thinking that if God did it then, He can certainly do it again! That’s when I decided to do a mindset shift. I said to myself, instead of focusing on the struggles, the troubles, or the challenges, I chose to focus on what I knew God has already done and most certainly can do it again. Ladies, I say to you, make a conscious choice to say to yourself, with an attitude, “I expect good things to happen to me TODAY!” Take control of your anxiety, fear, and/or depression like I did, because YOU are in charge of your day. I would often say to my clients, “I don’t tell you to do anything that I am not doing.” I don’t believe in being a hypocrite or fake. I am human just like you and I have to walk the same path you are walking. Our journey may be a little different and we may be at different places on our journey, but we are all trying to get to the same place which is to live our best life now. We are all trying to be the best and highest version of ourselves.
So, I encourage you to join me and make this declaration today and speak it every day, “TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE”. Say it, believe it, and act like it. Then go out there and MAKE IT HAPPEN!
God bless you.
Love and Blessings,
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