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11 Signs That Show a Deficiency in Emotional Intelligence(Part Two)

Hello ladies. We are one day closer to the weekend. Please make sure you take some time for yourself and make yourself a priority. Remember the world will not come to an end if you take 30 minutes to an hour to embrace self-care and make it about you. Today we will share part two of the 11 signs that show a deficiency in emotional intelligence. Self-awareness is one of the main attributes of improving your emotional intelligence. It is very important you take a closer look at your behavior and tell the truth to yourself. If any of these behaviors resonate with you, that is a blessing. It makes you take an honest look at yourself to show you where you need to improve so you can live a truly happy and fulfilled life.

7. You often feel misunderstood

Sometimes it’s hard to express your thoughts to others. There may be times when you feel misunderstood. Don’t beat yourself up about it. No matter what you are desiring to do in life, you will always get better with consistent practice. Emotionally intelligent people know that they don’t communicate every idea perfectly. They can gauge when people don’t understand what they are saying. But they don’t let that bother them. They adjust their approach and re-communicate their idea in a way that can be understood.

8. You don’t know your triggers

Everyone has triggers. Triggers are simply situations and people that bring out your strong emotions and cause you to react impulsively. Emotionally intelligent people pay close attention to their triggers and apply this knowledge to stay away from situations and people that will cause them to behave in an inappropriate way.

9. You don’t get angry

Emotional intelligence is not about being nice; it’s about mastering your emotions to achieve the best possible outcomes. This could mean expressing your emotions to people when you are upset, sad, or frustrated. Consistently covering your emotions with happiness and positivity isn’t truthful or beneficial. Emotionally intelligent people intentionally master their emotions and choose the appropriate emotions to match the situations.

10. You blame other people for how they make you feel

Emotions come from within. It’s easy to blame how you feel by the actions of others, but you must take ownership of your own emotions. No one can make you feel anything that you don’t want to. Eleanor Roosevelt stated, “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

11. You’re easily offended

If you know your identity and who you are created to be, it’s difficult for someone to say or do something that gets you upset. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which means they are not easily bothered by the comments or rudeness of others. Consider this, working on yourself to improve in every area of your life is never a waste of time if it adds to the person you will become.

Love and Blessings,

Dr. Doris


I am Dr. Doris, a Licensed Clinical Christian Counselor, Ordained Minister, and Women's Emotional Intelligence Master Life Coach. I want to personally welcome you to take a peak inside my world of encouragement and positive engagement.  In this space I empower

women to be all God has created them to be. 


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