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21/90 Day Rule

What does it all mean? Good morning ladies. Have you ever heard of the 21/90-day rule? Back in the 1960’s a cosmetic surgeon name Dr. Maxwell Maltz wrote a self-help book called Psycho Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life.

In his book he suggested that it takes a mere 21 days of practice to break an old habit and create a new one. Many scientist have studied, researched, and changed the concept by saying it takes 30, 66 or 90 days to make and maintain behaviors, habits and beliefs. Well, here’s my encouragement to you regarding this idea. All of us would like to change something about ourselves. However, no one knows what you are capable of doing, but you. Don’t compare yourself to others or feel as if you have to do things exactly like everyone else. Everything is not for everyone. Don't beat yourself up if you fail to succeed at something exactly as someone else. Be kind to yourself. Here are a few steps to help you get started. Remember, don’t stress over it. Relax, enjoy making the changes, and make it a part of your daily life.

Step 1: Begin with the right mentality and attitude: Start making your changes to your life with a positive mindset, believing that this is something good for you and you are worth it.

Step 2: Identify what you want to change and make YOUR own plan: You don’t have to do what others do and you don’t have to set a time limit on it. Such as “I’m going to lose 30 pounds in 30 days". When you do that and miss the mark, you feel like a failure and that’s not who you are. Take your time and incorporate the changes you want to make into your day a little at a time. Don't worry if it seems to take awhile, If you keep going, you will get there!

Step 3: Stay positive: “death and life are in the power of the tongue…” If you keep speaking positive things about yourself and the changes you are making on this new journey, it will keep you motivated. Even if you don’t do as much as you wanted to do that day, celebrate yourself anyway for doing what you were able to do.

Step 4: Be Consistent: A little goes a long way. If you are consistent in doing a little each day, you will get where you want to be.

Finally, never speak

bad about yourself. Shame, blame, and guilt helps no one. So, see yourself as valuable, beautiful, and worthy because God says you are and that’s all that matters!

Love and Blessings

Dr. Doris

Call to action: Take a moment to think about what you would like to change in your life, make your plan, and use the steps to help you get started.


I am Dr. Doris, a Licensed Clinical Christian Counselor, Ordained Minister, and Women's Emotional Intelligence Master Life Coach. I want to personally welcome you to take a peak inside my world of encouragement and positive engagement.  In this space I empower

women to be all God has created them to be. 


I'm so glad you're here! 

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