Your mindset is how you see yourself through your own eyes. It is the assumptions and expectations you believe about yourself. Don’t be alarmed. It is natural as you go through life to make assumptions and have expectations when you don’t know all of the facts. That includes living life. You don’t know what the next moment will bring you. When you experience a hurtful situation or a traumatic event in your life, your brain is hard-wired to gravitate toward the negative. The scene of the event or situation replays over and over again in your mind for years to come. After seeing it in your mind for so long, it sets a negative belief pattern about yourself that you believe will be true for the rest of your life. However, the good news is, it's not true. Negative beliefs you have about yourself can change.
Research shows that mindsets are very important in determining your life’s results. By understanding, changing, and readjusting your mindset, you can improve your health, decrease your stress, and become more resilient to life’s challenges. Here are six mindset shifts to help you level up in life.
Everyone messes up and makes mistakes in life. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Remember you are only human, and we are fallible creatures. Meaning we will fail, and we will fall. But when you do, don’t stay down. Pick yourself, repent to God, ask for forgiveness if you have hurt someone, forgive yourself, and keep it moving.
· Don’t compare yourself to others
Everyone is on a different path in life. Your path is not the same as someone else’s. That means you are not going to do the same thing as others, you are not going to have the same life as others, and you are not the same person as others. So, stop comparing yourself to others. Be who God created you to be. You are unique, beautiful, fearfully, and wonderfully made. Rock that!
· Where you are right now is where you are supposed to be
People will always try to gauge where you are supposed to be in life. But understand we all move through life in our own way and at our own pace. It is not a race about who can finish first or get to the end the fastest. It is your life. Don’t listen to people who say, “you should be married by now” or “you should be further along in life than where you are”. I heard Pastor Joel Osteen say, “Bloom where you are planted”. In other words, make it the most enjoyable season where you are right now as you move forward in making your life what you want it to be.
· Be grateful for what you already have
It is not a benefit to yourself or anyone around you to hear you complain about what you don’t have or how horrible your life is. If you change that around and begin to speak positive words to yourself by having a heart of gratitude and thanking God for what you already have, unexpected blessings will begin to come your way. Start seeing yourself as a good person. Go out and do something good for someone else and that good will come back to you.
Don’t take on what doesn’t belong to you
Understand you are not responsible for what other people say about you, think about you, or believe about you. You are only responsible for loving God, loving yourself, and loving others. The opinions of others don’t belong to you, and you are not responsible to make people believe you are a good person. Even if you try to convince them that is who you really are, they won’t believe you most of the time. Just live your best life now and let them see the change in you. Give yourself permission to be free to be who God created you to be.
· To get what you want, know what you don’t want
A lot of people go through life searching for something. They don’t know what it is and wouldn’t be able to recognize it if it came. Take time to be alone with yourself and figure out what you don’t want in life so you can get what you do want in life. Write it down and read over it every day. Mindfulness is a wonderful tool to use to get connected with being present in the moment. Too many people rush through life going after the next thing before they get the first thing. Be patient with your life. Don’t live in the past or you will be asleep in the present. Each moment is a gift. Enjoy it to the fullest.
Love and Blessings