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You Are a Queen

Updated: Aug 22, 2022

I know you might say, “I don’t see myself that way” or “I don’t feel like a Queen.” That’s ok. Allow me to explain. The definition of a Queen is “the female ruler of an independent state”

I want you to understand that as a female you are the ruler of your independent state. That independent state is your mind, your heart, your thoughts, your emotions, your actions, and most definitely your life. Therefore, by definition, if you are a female and you accept every part of who you are as your independent state, then you are a Queen.

You see ladies, too many times in life you give the reign of your independent state over to someone else to rule. For example, when you were in elementary school did any of the kids ever call you fat or teased you in a hurtful way and all the other kids laughed? That made you sad and caused you to start seeing yourself with a negative body image. Or maybe it was in middle school when some mean girls bullied you instead of being friends with you. That caused a seed of rejection to be placed in your subconscious mind. If these situations caused you to look at yourself negatively or caused you to shrink and become small, you let someone else rule your independent state. Perhaps you were raised in a family who mistreated you or you were in a relationship with someone who constantly complained about you and blamed you for everything wrong in their life and that caused you to feel bad about yourself as a person. It doesn’t matter what or who took your reign over your independent state, it’s time to take it back. My sister Queens, it is time for you to break free from the mental prison you have allowed people, situations, and circumstances to put you in. Not to mention the lies and stories you told yourself for many different reasons.

This is the time for you to redefine what you want your life to be.

Understand my sister Queens it is not about anyone else. It’s about transforming yourself from the inside and that transformation will show up on the outside. We are going to start at the beginning to help you learn how to rule your Queendom. Consequently, did you know that “Queendom” is in the dictionary? I didn’t until I started researching information about becoming a Queen. The definition of Queendom is: “when all power is concentrated in a central female figure”. In other words, you must focus all of your power on becoming authentically the best and highest version of yourself. One of the most important parts of yourself is understanding emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is learning how to manage your emotions and understanding the emotions of others. Learning emotional intelligence is extremely beneficial because it affects every part of your life. It helps you define what you are feeling in any given situation so you can express those feelings appropriately and effectively. I must reiterate, that an emotional intelligent transformation doesn’t have anything to do with changing anyone else but yourself. Therefore, if you are a wife, keep being a wife and taking care of your husband. Just manage your emotions into becoming your best and highest version of a more peaceful, and loving wife. If you are a mom, keep being a mom and taking care of your children. Practice emotional intelligence and allow it to transform you into becoming your best and highest version of a more patient, present, and loving mom.

Understand, how you show up, how you speak, and how you carry yourself in your Queendom sends a very powerful message. And as you change, everything else around you will automatically begin to change. If you want to see the level of your emotional intelligence, click the button above and receive your free gift, an Emotional Intelligence Self-Assessment. If you would like to know more or would like to become a part of my Strong and Courageous Women's Empowerment Coaching Program, sign up on this website for a 30-minute, consultation. A friend once told me that “applied knowledge is power.” So my sister Queens, let’s do the work and apply what we learn so we enjoy our reign with wisdom, integrity, compassion, loving, and living in peace.

Love and Blessings,

Dr. Doris

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I am Dr. Doris, a Licensed Clinical Christian Counselor, Ordained Minister, and Women's Emotional Intelligence Master Life Coach. I want to personally welcome you to take a peak inside my world of encouragement and positive engagement.  In this space I empower

women to be all God has created them to be. 


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