I pray you are doing well, you are mentally strong, and standing on the promises of God. We have been sharing a lot about emotional intelligence and the many facets of learning how to master your emotions. I know deep in my heart; you ladies have done well. Let me quickly say, absolutely do not beat yourself up if at any time you feel you have faltered. Just pick yourself up (mentally & emotionally), dust yourself off, and begin again. I want to share with you something a client asked me. They asked, “Dr. Jones how do you know what your purpose is and how do you find it?” I thought that was a profound question. You know me I began doing my research (which I love to do) to find the answer.
Let’s start with the basic idea of what it means to have a purpose. Your purpose in life is as unique to you as your fingerprint. God has given all of us a specific set of talents, experiences, different levels of skills, and interests that gets us excited about life. You see your purpose is related to these things and everyone’s uniquely different, but knowing your purpose is your reason for being. For example, you could put two teachers side by side and one of them hates their job and has already decided before they get out of bed that it is going to be a horrible day, they hate their job and their students, and they only go to work for a paycheck. On the other hand, the other teacher who understands that this is their purpose looks forward to seeing their students and making a difference in their lives through education. They are excited to get to school and pour into their students. They may even go in early or stay late to help a student that is struggling. It is your “why” for getting out of bed each morning, even when the day is dreary or you're tired and don’t feel like getting up. Inside of you, there is something that excites you and it compels you to keep going and once you get into it, there is no stopping you.
Understand when you step into your purpose it becomes a powerful force that helps you stay motivated when things get tough. It empowers you so you can set and meet short- and long-term goals. Consequently, stepping into your purpose makes you feel like you are making a difference in the world which in turn magnifies how you see your own worth and value. Take a moment to think about your life and think about the things you do or have done that make you feel so good and you find yourself smiling just to be smiling. Those things could be your purpose in life. Who says you have to always focus on making your purpose about financial gain? If you would settle it in your heart to just live life on purpose your God-given purpose will become clear and bless you in ways you can't imagine.
You see ladies, it is not beneficial to live this life only thinking about yourself. The blessings you receive from stepping into your purpose are off the charts. For example, just to name a few. You will experience extreme satisfaction with your outlook on your life, you will have more joy, and happiness, be in better physical health, be more engaging in your relationships, and enjoy the journey of learning new things and having new experiences in life. The list goes on and on. It’s all about what you put into it. Life is what YOU make it…So make your life a good one.
Here are a few tips to help you find your purpose in life.
Develop a growth mindset
Having a growth mindset and a sense of purpose go hand in hand. Being consistent and growing to become the best and highest version of yourself helps you identify your purpose, and it helps you to commit to pursuing it. This allows you to:
· See challenges as opportunities to learn and grow.
· Endure despite setbacks.
· Accept constructive criticism and positive feedback as information and knowledge to help you become your true authentic self.
Create a personal vision statement
A personal vision statement serves as a roadmap that will guide you toward your purpose by identifying your core values and establishing what’s important to you. It also makes it easier for you to make decisions that align with your values and help you stay motivated as you work toward your personal goals and develop your purpose. Here are a few examples of a personal vision statement: “I will be intentional about making sure my children know that they are loved and valued every day." “I will do a random act of kindness for someone every day.” This could be something as simple as treating a co-worker to lunch, giving someone a compliment, or just buying someone a cup of coffee.
Giving back helps you to enhance your sense of meaning and purpose in life. This means that when you help others, you also help yourself. Therefore, make it a goal to look for ways to serve in your community or church. Find a way to do random acts of kindness. You would be surprised how good you will feel about yourself by being a blessing to someone else.
Practicing gratitude and being thankful for how blessed you are makes you more generous and lead to acts of kindness, which contributes to finding a sense of purpose.
My Prayer for you: Father, bless all of my sisters that are reading this blog. Give them peace of mind and peace of spirit to help them on their journey to stepping into their purpose in life. Reveal to them how special they are and let them know how much you love them in Jesus' name. Amen.
Call to Action: In the morning write three to five things you are grateful for to jump-start your day with a positive mindset and peaceful heart. In the evening reflect on three to five things that made you smile today. I would love to hear your thoughts. Click on the button below to share your thoughts and I will celebrate you with an encouraging response. Make the day as beautiful as you are.
Love and Blessings,